Rosie Reflecting

  Photo by Yan Krukov (Pexels)                 Do you need others to have a good time? To enjoy work? Or can you decide for yourself?   In my last post ‘Living the Dream’ (or How does a person react to change?) I wrote about how our language and behaviours are indicators of how often we may well change our behaviour, in a given context [1] . This all led on from a conversation I had with a friend.   The theory or fact is that our language and behaviours give away huge clues (to those who are aware of this fact), clues on how we will behave and what we will say in a particular situation.    However, we are all complex individuals and it isn’t just the language and behaviours indicators around the Decision Factors [2] , which shows are they motivated to change through searching for ‘difference’ or ‘sameness’. Being complex human beings other factors come into play and we may change or appear to change as we progre...

Well that’s what people tell me I am doing as I live out in southern Turkiye.   I was chatting with a friend recently. They have been out in Turkiye quite a while and are married to a Turk and in their work have lot to do with yabancı (that’s foreigners and in Turkiye can sometimes just be someone who is not from the area you are from or living in. A little like the Scots calling other nationalities ‘white settlers’). The friend told me this - some people move here and buy a property (or rent) and they only stay for two (2) years and others for five (5 years) and yet others for ten to fifteen years (10 to 15) and others just stay for ever. I nearly choked on my coffee and was for once in my talkative life almost rendered speechless!   As a Master Consultant and Trainer of the Language and Behaviour (LAB) Profile® I recognised these time frames as being what the LAB Profile® calls ‘Decision Factors’. These behavioural patterns will be evident in the lives of those of us...