Rosie Reflecting

Yes just that an earthquake. Actually it happened a couple of weeks ago, one Sunday evening. We were sat on the balcony about 8.45 pm, unusual for us because about then is when the mosquitoes appear and the ones at that time of night are minute, nasty vicious things with a bite that reminds you it was there for a couple of days. We had experienced our first earthquake a couple of months before, still during shielding we had been up in a neighbor’s apartment whilst we had new railings built on our the step up to our balcony (the previous railing not having been fitted by a craftsman, rather by a man on the cheap thanks to our previous managing agents, (along the lines of ‘I have a mate he’ll do it cheap’, not that it was of course). On that day I was stood on the balcony listening to the various Imams in the local area calling to prayer, literally the after noon prayer Dhuhr or Zuhr that is called when the sun passes the zenith. The balcony railing shook a little, I looked down and

The owl fabled epitome of a leveller The Leveller Remembering the Satir Categories from the last post, this is by far the best place to be, it’s not always the easiest place to be. Our default behaviours are often governed by nature and nurture.   Levellers have few threats to their self-esteem.   Words, voice tone, body movements and facial expressions all give the same message.   Levellers apologise for an action, not for existing.   They have no need to blame, be subservient, retreat into a computer behaviour or to be constantly on the move.   They are great communicators and have the ability to build bridges in relationships, heal stalemates and build self-esteem.     How does a leveller think and behave? The leveller response is a real-time congruent response.   All the other responses that manifest in the other behaviours are as a result of negative internal feelings causing words and actions to be incongruent.   It is very easy, under pressure, to respond to a situ

The Satir Categories L ast time I mentioned the Satir Categories, well the Blamer.   So here a little more on these categories.   What I think is interesting about Virginia Satir is that she was a family therapist, so why mention her in the context of work or community?   Well we often spend more time at work than with our families so work becomes our family. This also applies to living in a small community. Sobering thought. Virginia Satir was one of the people modelled in the early days of NLP.   She was a highly effective family therapist. Virginia identified, in her book People Making, the following behaviours; they are not exclusive to dysfunctional families.   We can notice these categories and behaviours everywhere. Virginia identified four behaviours that were responsible for many conflicts and one used for resolving conflict and bringing people together. There is an NLP Presupposition or Operating Belief ‘Mind and body are part of the same system and what effects on